Chapter 9

THE PATH OF TRUTH

Always speaking truthfully is the key to your life, the key to your happiness, and the key to your peace of mind. Until a human being is authentic in every area of his life, he will never be free. He’ll always be a prisoner to someone or something else.

                I remember the book that put me onto the “Path of Truth.” It’s called Never Be Lied to Again, by Dr. David Lieberman, PH.D.

                I used to lie for convenience—typically to whatever girl I was dating (about not cheating). After reading this book, I learned about the unconscious things people do when they’re being deceptive. I started noticing myself doing them when I was lying. My guilty conscience started eating me alive. Every time I lied, I felt like it was all over my face—and in reality—it is.

                The process of eliminating the lying habit started back in 2002. Combine the Never Be Lied to Again book with my newfound spiritual pursuits, and being brutally honest starting becoming my new normal. Radical honesty gave me a “natural high.” The more uncomfortable the truths were, the “higher” the sensation. I’m not talking about speaking uncomfortable truths that would hurt another person’s feelings. I’m talking about speaking uncomfortable truths in regards to my own misdeeds. I finally understood what true accountability was. Instead of trying to be slick and “get away with something,” I would just change the terms of my relationship agreements. Instead of cheating on a girl, I would clarify the terms of our relationship, by saying, “We’re not in a committed relationship. We’re both free to come and go as we please.”

                Everything was on the table. Simple.