First and foremost, I appreciate the fact that you thought the idea of writing you a "love-letter" was cute. You see, some girls who clicked on this might've thought it was cheesy.
Their attachment to ego and lack of feminine sensitivity shows me that they're not aligned with my values anyway. It's an easy way to weed out "problematic" possible girlfriends.
And yes, at the beginning of this love-letter, you're just a "possible girlfriend." As you move through this love-letter, you'll be able to determine whether or not your values are in alignment with my values (as your future-boyfriend).
Most humans begin relationships based on physical attraction. The physical attraction can be so strong that it causes people to neglect the truly
important areas of creating a quality (mutually-beneficial) relationship.
With that understanding, I choose to create my next relationship in reverse. I intend to outline (in this love-letter) the qualities I appreciate most about you. Once you determine that you do
, in fact, possess these qualities, you'll choose to contact me, and our beautiful, mutually-beneficial relationship will begin. :]
Of course, there will have to be a certain level of mutual physical attraction. But instead of jumping into a relationship based on pure physical attraction, I choose to make sure the "inner synergy" we'll need is already present.
I'm not interested in "saving" anybody, or "changing" anybody. I've wasted too much of my life thinking it's possible to do so. I intend to enter my next relationship with a woman who's already aligned with my life-philosophy.
I intend to create a relationship that magnifies the happiness of two "whole" people, creating a 200% experience.
Most "half-people" enter relationships thinking the other person is going to "complete them." I discuss this idea in greater depth in my next book. When two "half-people" each bring 50% to the relationship (in an effort to feel "whole"), you end up with a "half-assed" relationship experience.
If you're still reading, I imagine you find this content intriguing enough
to at least consider
becoming my future-girlfriend.
Or did I just implant that thought into your head?
Too late. It's there now.
Let's move forward. :]
Let's see if our relationship desires are aligned ...
In Chapter 23 ("Loving Relationships Work Because There Is No Work") of my new book, I outline the ten qualities that I find most important in a woman. And these qualities are what I appreciate about you, future-girlfriend.
I love that you're:
-- You always speak truthfully (at all times, about all things). Without trust, a relationship is a bust.
Spiritually Aware But Rational
-- If you have an appreciation for the perfection of life and nature, and realize there's an intelligence greater than your own that governs our universe ... then I can kick it with you. However, you need to be rational about your beliefs.
-- You take pride in honoring me as your man (before all others). If you cause me to doubt, I must kick you out.
-- You find the most
joy in the simple things in life, and have no diva tendencies.
-- Wanna take Neo (my dog) to the lake? Play tennis? Read books together on the couch? Of course you do; you like to go with the flow. You bring zero drama
into my life. If you love dogs, that's a huge plus.
-- You believe in my message and offer encouragement, inspiration, and ideas.
-- You understand the importance of living within your means. Your sense of self-worth doesn't come from trying to keep up with the Kardashians.
Aligned With My Sense of Humor
-- You love hearing me wail old school R&B songs in the shower. You love hearing me sing my original country songs, like: "Neo, why you so uglyyyyyyyyyy? Are you always gonna beeeeeeeee that waaaaaaaaaay?"
You love my always original jokes and smooth pick-up lines.
-- You love cooking dinner and scratching my head. You're in touch with your feminine nurturing side.
-- Our physical connection is the icing on our already beautiful cake. And if you happen to be Hispanic or Indian, you get preferential treatment. =)
So yeah, future-girlfriend, I'm really glad we found each other. Please understand that you're getting a quality future-boyfriend in return.
I'm cute, funny, smart, honest, loyal (faithful), spiritually-aware, compassionate, empathic, intuitive, driven, generous, thoughtful, slightly thuggy with a touch of "bad boy" flava, focused, inspirational, motivational, creative, dependable, humble (okay, I'm working on it), and ready.
And that's the most important element. Being "ready." I've already cultivated the necessary tools required to make a relationship work. I can resist the temptations that most men can't (or don't care to resist).
Most humans try to rush into relationships without being "ready." A person has to be at a certain maturity level before having the skills to properly "relate" to another human. That's why young love (and young marriages) usually fail. Two people can't expect to efficiently "relate" to one another, when they don't even fully know themselves
Temet Nosce is the Latin phrase seen in the movie The Matrix
. It means, "Know Thyself."
A man can't expect to intelligently relate (in a relationship) to a woman, until he fully understands himself
. First and foremost, he's got to figure out what makes him
The only way to do that is to experience life
. That's why relationships rarely last between couples in their twenties; they haven't cultivated a healthy appreciation for who they are yet. They're still "learning the ropes" of life.
In order to create a mutually-beneficial "mature" relationship, you need two "mature" human beings.
Timing is everything.
So there you have it, future-girlfriend. I've laid it all out there for you. Think about the story we'll be able to tell on The Wendy Williams Show
, when she's like, "Girl, tell me how you two started dating!"
"Oh Wendy," you'll say, "he wrote this 'love-letter to his future-girlfriend' on his website and I thought it was the cutest thing ever! I totally dug his unique creativity, so I hit him up. We started talking, and I began to fall in love with his mind, spiritual strength, and sense of humor. I just felt energized when we were together! Not to mention, the bond he has with his dog (and their ability to communicate) is something special to watch. It shows me that he'll be a great father one day. Now, we're just so happy, it's silly!"
To which, Wendy will reply, "How YOU doin'?"
Please keep in mind, future-girlfriend, that I'm a Conscious Creator.
Which means, I create my life deliberately. Sometimes, this constitutes thinking "outside-the-box" and doing unusual things (like writing you this love-letter). But I believe in investing time and effort into the areas of life that are most important. Why create one of the most important relationships in your life based on whims? That's like building a house with straw. When storms appear, your house (relationship) will be easily destroyed.
Plus, I know my perfect future-girlfriend will appreciate this letter. She'll "get it." She'll recognize its brilliance.
Thanks for taking time to read this love-letter, future-girlfriend. I look forward to sharing the next phase of my life with you.
PS. I love you.
And don't worry if you don't have every single quality I've listed in this love letter. I certainly didn't become the perfect man overnight, and I'm willing to work with you ...